Optimism in children, especially those growing up able to fight offdepression and to protect them from emotional problems. In a studyof 5600 pre-adolescent children in Australia, found that an optimisticmind can help protect children from emotional problems, such asattitude antisiosial, drug use, depression, and others.
Optimism is essential in child health and needed to make it deal with the pressing problems of life. According to Dr. Leslie Walker, Head of the Department of Children’s Hospital in Seattle says, the nature of this kind can be formed. However, he says, for this, the most important is the example of parents.
“follow the example of parents is how children learn through life. If the parents are the type of optimistic face life, you will see his sonalso will like it,“said Walker, as quoted from msnbc.com. Here are some tips to make the child more optimistic :
01. Listening carefully
The key to get a sense of trust of children is to let him say what hewants said, and you as parents have to listen without judging.According to Walker, the children have strong feelings but do nothave words to express it. The story also pointed out that he is part of the learning process of their thinking. They could have said, “I hateMath!” when what they really want to say is “How can I learnmathematics better?” The task of the parent to find out what they want to say.
02. Avoid labeling
Conscious or not, children will try to meet or against all expectations of her parents. So, every time you say, “My second child is my childthe most shy,” and was heard by the child, then it will become a permanent identity in him. Negative labeling on children can harmchildren’s self concept, and make parents face the things that he did not like in the child continuously.
03. Re form, do not be avoided
Teenagers want to be treated seriously and understood. To do this,parents must face the situation. For example, if the child said theydid not like to go to school, it’s not realistic to respond to thenormative words and clichés, such as, “Do not worry, everything will be fine, really.” Ask more about what bothered him and make him uncomfortable to go to school, and look for the things he liked at school. Focus on that and help him face the problems that made him reluctant to go to school. Find out also whether it results from people who bother him.
04. Seeing the bright side
According to Walker, it is important to demonstrate to your childabout the good side and bad side of every situation he faced,encourage him to look on the bright side. When your child feels sadand see the world as a very bad place to live, you can respond withwords that the world needs balance and bad things can happen.Because there are bad things that he could see good things andappreciate it better.
Optimism and hope is a very close and sometimes overlooked by parents. Though it is required by a child to wake up in the morningand try to get through another day.
Source : Nadia Felicia